A Hand-Holding Break Up

I had been dating *James for about 6 or 7 months and I thought things were going really well. Then one day, James came to pick me up for some food and a drive. We went to get food, but James stood hesitantly in the parking lot, so I reached up to grab his arm and go in (I was hungry). James apparently thought I was grabbing his hand to hold, which at the time, I figured it didn't matter either way. We had a nice meal and afterward, James wanted to drive up the Alpine Loop (in the canyon). James didn't have the best navigational skills, so we ended up on a rather long and bumpy ride down a very dark, very unpaved road. We hadn't been having much of a conversation. In fact, I was rather tired, so I was laying back in the seat resting while James still held my hand. After several hours, James realized he had the wrong road. We turned back and made our continuing-to-be-silent way back to my apartment.

Just as we got there, he said, "Something was supposed to happen tonight."

Me, being the ignorant and still-in-love girl, I thought he meant he wanted to kiss me, so I said, "Oh, really?" all coy and knowing.

He looked at me and said, "Not that."

That was when he let go of holding my hand (he had been holding it for almost the entire night). And then proceeded to say that he didn't think we should date anymore. I was pretty shocked, since he had just been holding my hand and I hadn't seen any other clues or anything. He kept talking while I was silently stunned. He mentioned that he hadn't dumped me right at the beginning of our "date" because I had grabbed his hand. I decided not to tell him I was just trying to get him to go in because I was hungry. After he talked for a bit longer and I had told him I was ok (which, I wasn't) I got out of the car.

The best line of the night came then. He said, "So, I'll see you around?"

I looked back with a killer crusty and said "Probably not."

Then I walked inside and bawled my eyes out.

For guys: don't hold hands with a girl for several hours and then dump her and then expect to be all "see you around."

Telephone Break Up

I had been dating a guy for about 4 1/2-5 months. Everything was going relatively well or so I thought. Then I got a phone call. Now really how many stupid guys dump girls over the phone????? That's really tasteless guys!!!!! The phone conversation went:

"How are you feeling?" (I had been sick the week before.)

"I'm doing great, how are you?"

"Well, I um... I um think we should be just friends."

Now trying not to sound too upset--which probably totally hurt him--but, oh well, he was the one doing the dumping so he had it coming to him, "Okay sounds good to me."

He went on to explain, but it was like blah blah blah and the usual and some stuff that sounded like he was trying to get me to cry, but I wouldn't back down, no, I was tough! We said goodbye, I hung up the phone and then broke down. Gosh, I was so good at holding it all in.

Well, I got over that one quickly. The next weekend I had a party at my house,, and we were all laughing about how I got dumped over the phone. Oh, yes, and the time that registered on my cell phone was 1 minute...how pathetic!